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Why Is Self
Improvement Important?
There are several times in our lives that we feel we weren't
living in the body we are. This happens most commonly when
there are problems in our lives. But, is it rational to
believe that if we were someone else, the problems in our
lives could have stopped? It is time to face reality – no one
in life is free from problems. Being somebody else will not
help matters any!
People who are walking on the street in a very confident and
composed manner might actually be harboring a whole
infestation of worries in their minds. Supposing if the mind
was like a television screen and you could watch it, you could
see that each and every person out there has the mind full
with tensions, worries and stress. In fact, those people on
the road might be looking at you and thinking that you are the
most contented soul on earth! So when you are busy thinking
you were someone else, probably that someone else is busy
thinking they were you!
The Grass is Greener
You might think that your best friend who is a rich
businessman might be having a very ideal life to live. But at
the same time, that businessman friend of yours might be
worrying about the potbelly and short height he has and must
be thinking it were better if he could be in your body! Or
probably he just wants out from all those problems his
business brings on each day.
If you are seeing the humor in all this, it's not wrong at all
– because there is humor! We like to be like other people for
their money, for their looks, for their girlfriends and
boyfriends, but the truth is, there are times when these
people would like to be someone else. We think ourselves
insecure and those people secure, while the equation is
different when thought of in their head. Let us not lose our
self-esteem with such handicapping thoughts.
One of the things that you must be wary of is that you might
be inviting your own problems. Bad breath for example! In
cases of bad breath, the owner of the bad breath is often the
last to know. When that happens, there is social ostracism of
the person long before he or she comes to know of the reason.
Or, people might talk incessantly about irrelevant things
without knowing how boring those topics might be to listeners.
In fact, these are just ways in which they are killing their
own social acceptability.
Keep Your Ears Open
The surest method out from such problems is to listen to what
people have to say about you. Be sure to heed to what people
who care about you have to say. If you have problems, discuss
those with these people. Ask them some pointblank questions
about things that you think are lacking in you. Like, you can
ask them, 'Am I boring in company?', 'Does my breath smell?',
'Am I too imposing on others?', etc. You will be sure to get
some frank answers. If criticism comes your way, do not
disbelieve your friend. Instead, ponder on ways how you can
overcome that shortcoming in you. Congratulations, yourself
improvement has begun!
Always remember that when you are in love with yourself, other
people will also love you. Appreciate your own qualities
first, then others will follow suit. If you are not confident
about things, you will never be able to share them with
others.
If you are planning to be a guru and teach people about how
they should live their lives, see whether you have some
problems with your own life first that you must improve upon.
Make yourself an example before you start preaching. When you
improve yourself, your own life is ameliorated first, and then
you set about ameliorating other people's lives.
Never ever harbor an inferiority complex about yourself. Do
not think about things that could have been in your life. Be
truthful to what you are and that's where the self-improvement
takes off. Do not compare yourself with people you see around
you. If you do that, you will invariably find yourself holding
the shorter end of the stick.
Keep in mind that none of us are born perfect, and neither
will we die perfect, so it is useless to even try. Do not rue
over the better things you could have had in your life. Be
happy about yourself and the world will see the good in you.
That is how you can create your own contentment and happiness.Source:
http://www.lifesatori.com |
