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Discover How
You Can Improve Yourself
Sometimes, things look better when they are a little farther
off. Take a painting, for example. Would you be able to
appreciate it if you held your nose just inches away from it?
No! But if you stand at a distance, you will certainly be able
to understand and admire what it was all about.
This happens a lot in life too. We sometimes need to change in
order to improve ourselves. But the problem is, we do not know
what the change needs to be. Think about it. Are you observing
things too closely again? Putting some distance between things
will essentially help you to properly determine what you want
from life.
When things happen suddenly in life, we are generally not able
to adapt to things. Just like a frog that might suddenly jump
off if he or she were to be suddenly put into hot water, we
too cringe at sudden changes in life. But if things happen
gradually, we might not find the pinch that much, like a frog
that is kept in a vessel of normal water and then slowly
boiled over a stove.
Consider an example of Michael who works in a company with
many employees in it. On Monday, Raymond says he doesn't
Michael's efficiency at work. Michael does not mind; Raymond
is just a colleague. On Tuesday, Neil says the same thing to
Michael. Michael still takes it in his stride. On Wednesday,
Sara might say it, on Thursday, Daniel might. But Michael will
not think the issue is that serious because it is all
happening gradually. The essence of self-improvement will not
be felt in Michael with that imposing urgency that it should.
Pain and defeat teaches us the most poignant things of life.
We see things going in a downslide. People do not accept that
they need to exercise in the early stages. Only when none of
their jeans fit them, they think they must do something.
People do not realize they need eye treatments early on. Only
when their sight begins to dwindle, they think seriously about
it. Smokers will never think there is anything wrong with them
until it is too late.
That is how it is with self improvement. We do not realize we
need to improve ourselves until and unless there are crashes,
booms and bangs everywhere around us. We blind ourselves to
situations only because we find it very difficult to make
changes in our lives.
But situations will change, whether we like it or not. We are
going to have the crazy detours in life that we might well
know about. And that time we need to make improvements within
ourselves so that we can keep up with the speed. This feeling
must be thought within ourselves, and not because someone else
is cajoling us into it.
If you are characteristically a happy person, then you will
not worry about the changes that occur in life. That is
because you will accept the changes, and what's more
important, you will accept that it is necessary to change
yourself to keep up with the changes that are happening around
you. Never hide behind the statement, 'But that's how I am!'.
That is the refuge of a person who is fearful of things. These
are the people who will face the most difficulties in life.
See how people can intimidate us into things. When Hester was
a kid, she felt that she was not comfortable with people. Her
parents did not encourage her; but instead just told all
guests that she didn't like being with people. Hester carried
this attitude to school and it became popular among her
friends and teachers that Hester is a typically shy girl. The
same thing continued in her place of work. Now, Hester remains
shy. And this is what has been driven into her mind through
years of conditioning.
But, only is Hester had never thought about it in that way at
the start! Only if she had changed herself, at any point in
life, and started meeting people! Things would have been so
different! Hester lacked the spirit to make the change, and so
she remains with the same problems.
It is true that people do not like the idea of
self-improvement very much, because they don't want to think
something in them actually needs improvement. But, it needs to
be done. In each and every one of us. The sooner the better.
It is worth sitting back and enjoying the ride until then. If
you have joined a gym to cut that flab, enjoy your visits to
the gym. Read books to enrich your knowledge. That is when you
will begin discovering true happiness within yourself.
Source:
http://www.lifesatori.com |
